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2013.06.08 22:14 flignir Am I the Asshole?

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2020.10.31 07:57 Gingerbreadman_13 Home Owner's Association doesn't care about my health but how dare my flat look non-conformist!

This was originally posted to MaliciousCompliance but it was suggested that I post this here as well.
This happened 5 years ago. It's a long one but worth the read, or at least I think so. First, a bit about me. For the story's sake, you can call me Alex. I was a 29 year old male at the time. I'm generally very friendly and accomodating and try to avoid confrontation where possible and always try to do things in a peaceful and patient manner. Now onto the back story.
I lived in a gated community comprised entirely of multiple blocks of small apartments. Every block of apartments looked exactly the same as the other blocks of apartments around it. They were a few floors high and I lived on the 1st floor (clarification: I believe in America the first floor is the ground floor. Where I live, the ground floor is the ground floor and the first floor is the one above the ground floor or as Americans would call it, the second floor. So I lived one floor above the ground floor).
The Home Owners Association/estate management were extremely strict about any infringements regarding things we weren't allowed to do and would issue fines very quickly if you were in breach of the rules and didn't rectify it. For example, you were allowed to have furniture on your patio but you weren't allowed to have any decor on your patio. I imagine it was because they wanted uniformity in the appearance of the blocks of flats. Also, no loud noise or music was allowed after 10pm. I personally agreed with the no loud noise thing. It was quiet a peaceful community that frankly was very well managed which is something I enjoyed about it. I didn't agree so much with the "no decor thing". As a photographer and artist, personal expression is important to me but I figured as long as I kept it tasteful and stylish and mostly out of visible sight, they hopefully wouldn't have an issue with it. I'm a big fan of vintage motorbikes and had a few tasteful (or at least I thought they were tasteful) metal posters with classic bikes like Triumph Bonnevilles, Indian Scouts, BSAs, Nortons, Ducati's etc up on one of the walls of my patio. They were at such an angle that meant they weren't easily visible from the rest of the complex so didn't think it would be an issue. Somehow it was still spotted by the estate manager. But more on this later. I also had a few potted plants on the ledge of my balcony. Again, we'll get to that later. You need to know about it for the rest of the story.
My downstairs neighbour also used to smoke in her back garden (the ground floors had small gardens and my balcony was directly above her garden). Her smoke would rise up and go through my open bedroom window or the large sliding door on my patio which was usually open in summer and enter my flat. Since I don't smoke, this bothered me. The smell seeped into my furniture and bedding. Even my sleeping pillow smelled of smoke. I politely spoke to her in person about it and she apologised for the inconvenience but never stopped doing it. She was actually a very friendly lady. She was never horrible. I suppose she was nice enough to be friendly but not nice enough to stop doing it. So I decided to take it a step further and I emailed the manager of the gated community to ask if there was something that could be done. The following is the email transaction between myself and the manager who I'll call Nicole:
Good day. I stay in unit 117 on the first floor and my downstairs neighbour who lives on the ground floor (although being a very friendly old lady) has a nasty habit of smoking in her patio. My issue is that in summer with the heat, I leave my bedroom window and sliding door open to keep my flat cool and the fumes from her cigarettes are constantly rising up and entering my apartment. I'm not a smoker so this bothers me. My flat smells as if a smoker lives there. Now my question is, is there any rule or law that says she can't smoke in her patio due to her smoke entering my flat? She knows her smoke bothers me and has apologised to me for it but hasn't done anything about it. If she were to only smoke inside her flat or outside her front door, I'm sure the smoke wouldn't come in to my flat nearly as much since I never have my front door open. Thanks in advance. Regards, Alex.
She responded with:
Good morning Alex This is a very contentious issue as this is her home and there is no law at the moment stating you cannot smoke in your home. Regards Nicole.
I wasn't happy with that response but I figured there was nothing more I could do about it and didn't want to bother making a bigger issue of it so I just forgot about it and moved on until about a year later when estate management picked up on two infringements by me. At this point, Nicole had resigned and Stuart had replaced her. This is the email I got from Stuart:
Good day I trust that you are well. Please could you remove the pots from the wall as per the attached photo as this is dangerous should they be knocked off and fall onto someone downstairs and in breach of the conduct rules. Furthermore, no items can be attached to the walls in the patio and you are requested to remove the pictures as per the photo as this is aesthetically displeasing. Your assistance is appreciated. Kind Regards Stuart, Estate Manager
After that email I was now a bit upset and determined to get my way in terms of my smoking downstairs neighbour. Queue my malicious compliance:
Good day Stuart. I'm very well. Thanks for asking. Absolutely, I will take the pictures down. Not a problem. We wouldn't want someone's vision to be irreparably damaged from the unsightly trauma that is my vintage bike picture collection. Though I must comment that I appreciate the very polite way my decor is described as "aesthetically displeasing" as opposed to what that actually means. "Damn, that's ugly" is probably a more colloquial translation. My feelings might have been hurt otherwise. I'm very relieved I didn't go into the profession of interior decorating (which a few people I know have said I should have done) since the sudden realisation that my taste in style isn't what I once thought it was. It could have been a disaster career wise. Alternatively, what if I were to replace the photos of the bikes with a nice family portrait of my parents? Granted, they aren't super models but they're attractive to me, though I may be biased in that opinion since I care for them, so I'm hoping they're not too ugly. Oops, I mean "aesthetically displeasing". If that fails, maybe a reproduction of the Mona Lisa would be sufficient to meet your high standards. Tourists travel across the globe and wait in line for hours just to see it for a few minutes. Would that be allowed? I won't even charge fellow tenants for looking at it when they're walking past my balcony. Obviously, I'm being a little ridiculous and I don't mean to give you a hard time. You're just doing your job and enforcing some of the ridiculous rules that management come up with, like the communist level restriction on personal expression and the freedom of choice to decorate and style our own property in a manner that we like. God forbid we show some individuality. Now that I think about, the endless rows of identical looking Soviet era housing structures do have a nice seizure inducing repetitive nature about them. While we're on the subject of decor, how is it that that plastic patio furniture is still allowed? Yes, it is patio furniture which complex rules say are allowed on patios but damn, that is painful to look at. You know what I mean, right? That cheap white plastic stuff one buys at the furniture section at those large bulk buying stores? I find it very aesthetically displeas... oh screw it. It's ugly. I don't like looking at it. It comes across as tacky. Can't they be scrapped as well? I'm going off topic again. The whole point of me bringing all of this up is that a few months ago I emailed asking about a complaint I had. The complaint was that the lady who lives directly downstairs from me regularly smokes in her garden. And me, being the lover of oxygen that I am, keep my windows and patio door open for fresh air. And her smoke is constantly wafting into my apartment. Me being a non-smoker, I get quite annoyed. I asked if anything could be done about this. I was told "it's her property and her patio, she can smoke on it if she wants to." I know that health legislation stipulates that smoking within a certain distance from a designated non smoking area is illegal. If it's good enough for public spaces, shouldn't I have that same right in my own house? Granted, I don't have "designated non-smoking area" signs in my flat but I'm the only one who lives there so I already know there's no smoking allowed. I made the rule. It would be silly to put them up inside. Should I put them up outside on my patio instead so others can see? Maybe they don't know I don't like cigarette smoke. Actually wait, I already know the answer to that. They're "aesthetically displeasing". Forget I mentioned it. So to recap: what really gripes me is that when my neighbour smokes so close to my flat that I can practically smell what brand of cigarettes she smokes, I'm told I can't do anything about it even though it might affect my health because it's her property and she can do what she likes on it. By that logic she could host orgies on her lawn and I couldn't do anything about so long as she kept the volume down after 10pm. But I can't put up pictures on my patio because some people might not like the way they look, even though it is also my property and it would be nice if I could do with it as I wanted provided it wasn't an eyesore. Since I take a lot of pride in my flat, I wouldn't call it an eyesore as I maintain it quite well, or at least I think so. If only a person's lungs and health were as important as other people's inability to mind their own business. So, what I really want to know is, is there any way that my neighbour could possibly just smoke inside her flat or at least outside the front of her flat if she insists on smoking outside where the smoke won't come into my place as easily, I would accept that too. I'm not a completely unreasonable guy. I find her smoke "nasally displeasing". I normally wouldn't make such a big deal about it but I'm starting to feel that what I'm subjected to versus what others have to be subjected to is a bit unfair. Sorry to put all this on you, Stuart. I understand it's totally not your fault. I'll still take the pictures and the potted plants down immediately. Your assistance is appreciated. Kind Regards, Alex (Unit 117)
I sent that reply after 6 p.m. and I did not expect him to respond until the next morning. But half an hour later I got a reply. My email must have made an impact.
Hi Alex Thank you for your e-mail. I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. I do understand your frustration and unfortunately this is the reality of staying in such built up complexes. I will address the issue of the smoking with your neighbour and will revert to you. Thank you for your assistance and understanding. Kind Regards Stuart.
To me, that sounded positive. So Stuart deserved a pat on the back. I sent a short reply:
Thanks Stuart! Much appreciated. You're a top notch guy!
By now it was after 8pm and I'm sure someone with a 9 to 5 desk job like Stuart should have been at home and clocked out but he was still replying to me.
Hi Alex. I have confirmed that smoking is only allowed inside the unit or at least 5m from a public place, such as your balcony. I will confirm the neighbours unit number in the morning, unless you can advise offhand, and will address her on the smoking issue Kind Regards, Stuart.
I was over the moon! I ran downstairs to see what her unit number was and ran back upstairs to reply.
Stuart! You've gone from being a top notch guy to being a legend. Thanks so much! Her unit is 107. I was worried the outcome wouldn't be great and would have to "accidentally" bump into my pots while taking my pictures down while she was "conveniently" smoking in just the right position. It would be a tragic accident of course. \Cough cough* Sorry, some smoke got into my lungs. Though that would be a lot of effort since I've already taken the plants and pictures down and I would have to put them all up again to make the story sound believable to the police because they would no doubt interrogate me on suspected murder with a potted plant. And that's frankly too much effort. Luckily I don't have to resort to that. Thanks again Stuart! Your hard work has kept me out of prison. It's late. You can email her in the morning. Go home and have a beer. You've earned it!* P.S. - In all seriousness though, I'm totally kidding about the potted plant thing and if the lady downstairs were to "peg it" in the near future it would be completely coincidental and nothing to do with me and I'd appreciate it if you forgot you ever spoke to me. This would be terrible evidence against me in court. I mean, I dislike smokers but I wouldn't kill them. I'm not crazy. Regards, Alex.
Sadly, that was the last I would hear from Stuart. Our correspondence stopped after that. I felt we had developed a bond and it ended as quickly as it had begun. I only lived in that estate for another 2 years and had no more issues with the downstairs neighbour or her cigarette smoke. I now live in the suburbs in a lovely house with my wife and have no downstairs neighbours to complain about and no Stuarts to tell me what I can and can't do. I will treasure our time together. I hope wherever he is, he has our email thread printed out and pinned on his office board above his desk and thinks of me fondly whenever he looks at it.
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2020.10.31 05:39 IamADevilMan I am overwhelmed this semester and keep putting small things off.

Things I keep putting off.
Applying for more internships.
Adjusting my resume (adding those games I made through udemy to show I'm a damn rock star that they are looking for.)
Filing my financial aid.
Applying for accomodations that my mother keeps insisting. (They did not work, she says the same thing every semester and I'm getting tired of her i told you so even though it failed and do it attitude, its like MY GOD. SHUT THE FUCK UP. THE PROFESSOR LITERALLY DENIED THEM AND YOU STILL TELL ME TO FILE FOR THIS WORTHLESS BULLSHIT YOU RIDICULOUS ****)

Things that keep happening.
My Linear Algebra professor, Tommy Wieseau. . .No seriously, he acts like, has the proportion and emotional stability of Tommy Wieseau. This week he assigned us four fucking sections to read.
FOUR.
I fucking hate this asshole.
He tried to assign these sections the week of the midterm, then shoved them to this week to act like he was doing us a favor.
I tutor a disabled kid and get paid a good amount, but its super draining and I feel like his father doesn't like me.
I fall behind in literally all of my classes for Linear Algebra, scramble to catch up again and then fall behind in Linear Algebra.
It's fucking tough and thanks for listening. Doom Eternal is also very cathartic.
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2020.10.31 04:37 Popular-Hippo-8231 Abortion in Australia - going through it as we speak...

Hi all. Throwaway account for obvious reasons.
This weekend I am medically terminating our baby at 7 weeks and 5 days. I have the most supportive boyfriend in the entire world. He has come with me to every appointment, wiped away every tear and has told me that whatever I decide to do, he will support me every step of the way. I made the decision I couldn't go through with the pregnancy, and he said he felt a sense of relief. I am so glad we are on the same page. I can't image what it must be like when a couple is torn on such a huge decision.
We found out I was pregnant right on 6 weeks. Due to living remote in Australia and having to drive hours to appointments etc, we had to wait 12 days until we could start the process. I have had to have an ultrasound and 2 lots of bloods taken. I am petrified of needles. I also had to have an STI test... I didn't expect that one.
We had both worked ourselves up over the ultrasound and were absolutely petrified. We had a lovely radiographer(?) and he was so accomodating and knew why we were there. He treated us with the utmost respect and said if we didn't want to see or hear anything, we didn't have to but he would be sitting there to answer any questions we had. We chose to see the screen - and honestly, it cemented out decision further. It was only the size of a snow pea, if that. We were glad we looked. The only question I asked was "Is there a chance of twins?" in which he replied, "No definitely not."
We have been going to the Family Planning Clinic. It is a lengthy process. I always thought I could just book in to see my GP, get a referral for the medication and that be it. Apparently not. I do wish the process was so much quicker. I had to have an initial consult with the FPC, which they looked over my ultrasound + bloods + STI results, then they order the medication. It was 1 week exactly until the medication arrived. Last night I took my first tablet, it is to stop the pregnancy right in its tracts and prevents it from going any further. Sunday morning (tomorrow) I will take 4 tablets in which they have to dissolve in my mouth for half an hour. I have been prescribed codeine for severe cramping. My doctor told me yesterday that I can expect to pass clots the size of a lemon. I am so incredibly nervous and scared.
I do feel like waiting the entire 12 days, I started to form a bond with what I am growing inside of me. I know post-abortion is going to be extremely hard for my partner and I. But like we said, if we do regret our decision now, there is nothing stopping us for planning for a baby in a few months or years time when we are both ready and set up. I will update tomorrow or Monday, depending how I feel.
Please feel free to add your comments or experiences, if they are similar or not even close to mine. If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask them. Sending you all love and light x
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2020.10.31 03:07 hufflepuff0202 Colourblind update

Hello everyone, just a few opinions and questions upon the upcoming colourblindness accessibility options for the game.
Firstly, is there a firm release date for the update, as it is annoying playing an open beta when all my friends aren’t as accomodating?
Secondly, does everyone who is colourblind think that this is an adequate update?
I’m red/green colourblind and I don’t think that this is enough, especially as someone whom plays on discord servers. My only recommendation is that under everyone’s name, it says “white” and “cyan” and such. That way I would feel fully accommodated and not annoy everyone by asking “which one is cyan” when voting time comes around. Thank you.
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2020.10.31 02:16 noodlen00dle Neighbouring Flat Has Access To Our Flat - Student Accomodation (Not Uni Owned)

Hi friends,
This academic year, moved into a new student flat (not university owned), which was advertised as a 10 person flat. However, there is a 'fire door' at the end which is left unlocked, and leads directly into another flat.
We recently had a member of this flat come into our kitchen (in the middle of a pandemic) and the accommodation, whilst saying they would 'close' the door, has not.
We're not entirely sure if they're allowed to leave it unlocked (as this seems wrong and unreasonable on many grounds) but cannot find anything specific to this - as we've discovered so far, the accom requires many emails and extracts from the tenancy agreement etc. to be convinced to act.
I've looked into Fire Safety regulations in flats, and there might be something there in relation to compartmentalisation etc. but not sure about basic access and privacy/safety.
Thanks for any help :)
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2020.10.30 21:28 MaliciousFalcon Wouldn't the game benefit from entirely removing certain problem cards from the game?

A lot of older cards in this game could use a buff or a nerf, I think we can all agree on that.
Nerfing a card is always more preferable than outright removing one. However, certain cards will always be problematic cards as long as they exist.
Ice Block This card is just pretty poorly designed. It might have had a place in the past, but with the amount of card generation currently present in the game, Mages could easily generate additional copies of this card. In addition, it synergizes absurdly well with "Reno Jackson", which is otherwise a perfectly fine card on its own.
Spawn of Shadows This card needs no introduction. It's the poster boy of non-interactive burst damage OTK's. Priest shouldn't have class cards that do burst damage, except Shadowreaper Anduin, because it's thematically fitting. Even the developers find this to be the case, seeing as they openly admitted it and changed or HOF'ed several cards to accomodate this philosophy; Holy Smite, Mind Blast, etc. Raza & Anduin is fine on its own. This card is the real problem. It should either get a new non-burst damage related effect or else it needs to go.
There are probably some other cards as well, but these come to mind immediately.
Wouldn't the quality of the game just benefit so much from outright deleting these kinds of cards?
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2020.10.30 19:57 GrtKrd2020 AC7 fanfic in real world

If I were to set my fanfiction of AC7 in the real world, I'd take Germany for Osea and the OADF bases (like Leck Air Base for the 444th Air Base or Schleswig Air Base for the Fort Grays Island Air Base). Now the question: I thought of then maybe setting the enemy countries in the Caucasian/Middle East region, so what locations could I maybe use? (Government systems of countries can be changed to accomodate the story)
My motivation would be that I'm German myself, and I'd like to see Germans as the good guys for once.
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2020.10.30 19:21 Nightfury360 (HELP) Need to raise money for friends post-surgery expenses...Would anyone be interested in buying novels from me? Huge collection please see.

I need some money urgently to pay rent for an accomodation for my friend who is going to have (amongst other things) a knee surgery tomorrow. The only thing I could think right now to raise some money quickly, the only assets that I have are my laptop, phone and my books. And i need my laptop and phone for work. Would anyone be interested in buying some novels off me in Delhi? I have fiction, non fiction, fantasy, philosophy, autobiographies etc. Collections of ruskin bond, mahatma gandhi books (more than just experiments with truth) to orwells books, amartya sen , camus , charles Bukowski and i also have the popular titles like "to kill a mocking bird" , origin of species , one flew over the cuckoos nest etc. etc.,...I have around 140 novels but these are the only ones I can think of here in the hospital. Will share photos if anyone is interested.
I would also really appreciate any other ideas to raise some money. The hospital bills, medicince etc. have exhausted options like my and his savings, other friends and family etc. I work in a law office as a fresher and earn like minimum wage. But can draft legal notices and research and look out some legal arguments if anyone is in trouble. Would you recommend I take a low interest (no interest if they are real?) loan for like forty fifty thousand which can cover rent and some medicines? Can I even get such a loan without assets?
SS
And to think I was asking for smart watch recommendations just a few days ago lol fcking hate 2020.
p.s any cheap bare minimum 1/2 bhk room/flat rent options in delhi/noida? also sorry for incoherent post, hope its understandable
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2020.10.30 18:52 alienastray Show-er/Large softie problems

I average about 6" soft, so also low hanging and I'm just wondering are there any jeans that are more accomodating in the crotch area? I like jeans and work pants most but feel jammed in them most of the time. Also when you do particularly active things (running, football, etc) is there anything you find to help tame your junk without causing weird bending/buckling? I tried a jock strap once and it was tight and basically bent my dick in half pointing towards my asshole. Maybe it was too tight or small or just not the right one? I wear pouch underwear and am almost too big for them. I'm only 5'3" so some days I feel insecure about my bulge and like I just needed to be taller and need more room down there.
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2020.10.30 18:12 orangecreamcookie TIFU by signing up for a scholarship i didn't even want

Ok so before i start, i should probably mention a few things. First of, this is not a funny story in any way whatsoever. Also, it might be quite long so i am not expecting too many people to read till the end.
Last thing, this didn't quite happen exactly today but the gravity of my whole situation really sunk in yesterday. Some would argue this all started 8 months ago, imo it actually started 2 years ago.
So what happened two years ago? Well back then i was a confused 14 year old with no idea what to do with her life. And so the confused old me decided to plan out what i wanted to do in the future which is a responsible thing and since i had time on my hands, i started looking for scholarships. I come from a middle class family so i have never technically gone to a posh rich school. Anyways, let me quickly point out scholarship are more of a thing for graduation/post graduation atleast from what i know. So back to the story, i did find a scholarship. Now this wasn't just any scholarship. This was a fully funded two year scholarship for students who had finished Year 10. And it was in a totally different country but international students (specially ones from my country) could apply. It covered travel charges, visa charges, hostel accomodation and the total school fees for two years. Obviously, it sounded too good to be true.
Fast forward to 8 months ago. I was still confused as hell just 2 years older. So on March 5th, my dumbass recalled this scholarship that i had read about and decided to sign up for it. At this point, i was in the middle of giving my Year 10 exams. So that's what i did. The first step was to fill out the application. That included the Year 9 marksheet and the Year 10 mid term marksheet along with your other achievements. Now at no point did I expect my application to be shortlisted but it was. For reference purposes i had 99.3% in my Year 9 exams and 92% in my Year 10 mid term exam. Anywayssss, so a few months later i get an email regarding the next step, which was the written exam. Due to covid, it was conducted online. Honestly, i didn't prepare for the exam whatsoever because i wasn't taking it too seriously. What were the actual chances of me getting in ya know? So the exam comes up, and it's actually pretty easy but i struggle a lot because the stupid website kept glitching and anyways out of 150 i am expecting something like 120 which isn't that great.
So obviously, i am shocked as hell when i get an email with the list of the top 200 students and i am on 54th position. How i found out about this is a whole other story so i won't get into that.
A quick note before i continue, to mention that in between all this my Year 10 exam results came and I got 97.8% and how this happened is again a huge ass story that i won't get into.
So back to it, the interview happened and this time i actually did prepare a little bit. The interview went well except for a few things but they were interviewing 200 people, WHAT WERE THE FUCKING CHANCES OF ME BEING SELECTED??? At this point, i was looking for other schools as well and then all of a sudden i get an email and i find out i am chosen. Fuck.
A lot of, and i mean A LOT OF drama ensues after this but this is getting too long so i won't get into any of that.
This all leads up to yesterday when i get a call that i am going to be moving to the said country in the next 10 days since my entry permit came in. I have to leave my family, pack up my whole life in two bags and move to a place i have only ever heard of for the next 1 and a half year.
I don't know what i am doing. I fucked up so much for even signing up for this. The other people who signed up for this are ecstatic and looking forward to it and i am just sitting here, not even sure how i am holding myself together and not melting into a pool of all of my emotions. Also, i am going to be seventeen in 10 days so there is that.
I skipped over a lot of stuff in short, i am fucked. Extremely, consequentially fucked. GoodNight.
TL : DR - I signed up for a scholarship without thinking about whether i really even wanted it and now have to pack up my life in two bags and move to a whole different country on my own. BTW i am seventeen in 10 days.
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2020.10.30 17:08 clifcat Has anyone gone to Rogers Behavioral Health?

This is very specific, but I'm wondering if anyone has gone to their Res program? I'm looking at going for OCD, but I'm unsure about it. I've tried lots of CBT in the past and it hasn't helped so much - I just find it makes me more stuck and feel more alone.
If you went, did you find their program helpful? Were they understanding of autistic people - eg, sensory overload. Were they accomodating in their treatment knowing that our brains work differently from NT's?
Thank you! :)
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2020.10.30 12:17 Pristine-Ad-7433 Pg in Gurgaon

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2020.10.30 12:12 MightyPaladin77 Change Gauss minigun ammo to a new ammunition type that is made in big quantities, similar to 5mm

Seeing as how 2mm EC is made for single shot weapons, both in design and weight, this does NOT work for a minigun type weapon. So let's introduce a new ammunition type that is accomodated specifically for this gun, no need to change the design, just the name and properties. Call it 1mm EC, and is made in the same amount as 5mm and .50 ammo. Make it just a bit more weighty and that's it.
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2020.10.30 08:37 Gingerbreadman_13 Home Owner's Association doesn't care about my health but how dare my flat look non-conformist!

This happened 5 years ago. It's a long one but worth the read, or at least I think so. First, a bit about me. For the story's sake, you can call me Alex. I was a 29 year old male at the time. I'm generally very friendly and accomodating and try to avoid confrontation where possible and always try to do things in a peaceful and patient manner. Now onto the back story.

I lived in a gated community comprised entirely of multiple blocks of small apartments. Every block of apartments looked exactly the same as the other blocks of apartments around it. They were a few floors high and I lived on the 1st floor (clarification: I believe in America the first floor is the ground floor. Where I live, the ground floor is the ground floor and the first floor is the one above the ground floor or as Americans would call it, the second floor. So I lived one floor above the ground floor).

The Home Owners Association/estate management were extremely strict about any infringements regarding things we weren't allowed to do and would issue fines very quickly if you were in breach of the rules and didn't rectify it. For example, you were allowed to have furniture on your patio but you weren't allowed to have any decor on your patio. I imagine it was because they wanted uniformity in the appearance of the blocks of flats. Also, no loud noise or music was allowed after 10pm. I personally agreed with the no loud noise thing. It was quiet a peaceful community that frankly was very well managed which is something I enjoyed about it. I didn't agree so much with the "no decor thing". As a photographer and artist, personal expression is important to me but I figured as long as I kept it tasteful and stylish and mostly out of visible sight, they hopefully wouldn't have an issue with it. I'm a big fan of vintage motorbikes and had a few tasteful (or at least I thought they were tasteful) metal posters with classic bikes like Triumph Bonnevilles, Indian Scouts, BSAs, Nortons, Ducati's etc up on one of the walls of my patio. They were at such an angle that meant they weren't easily visible from the rest of the complex so didn't think it would be an issue. Somehow it was still spotted by the estate manager. But more on this later. I also had a few pot plants on the ledge of my balcony. (clarification: plants in pots. Not marijuana). Again, we'll get to that later. You need to know about it for the rest of the story.

My downstairs neighbour also used to smoke in her back garden (the ground floors had small gardens and my balcony was directly above her garden). Her smoke would rise up and go through my open bedroom window or the large sliding door on my patio which was usually open in summer and enter my flat. Since I don't smoke, this bothered me. The smell seeped into my furniture and bedding. Even my sleeping pillow smelled of smoke. I politely spoke to her in person about it and she apologised for the inconvenience but never stopped doing it. She was actually a very friendly lady. She was never horrible. I suppose she was nice enough to be friendly but not nice enough to stop doing it. So I decided to take it a step further and I emailed the manager of the gated community to ask if there was something that could be done. The following is the email transaction between myself and the manager who I'll call Nicole:

Good day.
I stay in unit 117 on the first floor and my downstairs neighbour who lives on the ground floor (although being a very friendly old lady) has a nasty habit of smoking in her patio. My issue is that in summer with the heat, I leave my bedroom window and sliding door open to keep my flat cool and the fumes from her cigarettes are constantly rising up and entering my apartment. I'm not a smoker so this bothers me. My flat smells as if a smoker lives there. Now my question is, is there any rule or law that says she can't smoke in her patio due to her smoke entering my flat? She knows her smoke bothers me and has apologised to me for it but hasn't done anything about it. If she were to only smoke inside her flat or outside her front door, I'm sure the smoke wouldn't come in to my flat nearly as much since I never have my front door open.
Thanks in advance.
Regards, Alex.

She responded with:
Good morning Alex
This is a very contentious issue as this is her home and there is no law at the moment stating you cannot smoke in your home.
Regards
Nicole.
I wasn't happy with that response but I figured there was nothing more I could do about it and didn't want to bother making a bigger issue of it so I just forgot about it and moved on until about a year later when estate management picked up on two infringements by me. At this point, Nicole had resigned and Stuart had replaced her. This is the email I got from Stuart:

Good day
I trust that you are well.
Please could you remove the pots from the wall as per the attached photo as this is dangerous should they be knocked off and fall onto someone downstairs and in breach of the conduct rules.
Furthermore, no items can be attached to the walls in the patio and you are requested to remove the pictures as per the photo as this is aesthetically displeasing.
Your assistance is appreciated.
Kind Regards
Stuart, Estate Manager

After that email I was now a bit upset and determined to get my way in terms of my smoking downstairs neighbour. Queue my malicious compliance:

Good day Stuart.
I'm very well. Thanks for asking. Absolutely, I will take the pictures down. Not a problem. We wouldn't want someone's vision to be irreparably damaged from the unsightly trauma that is my vintage bike picture collection. Though I must comment that I appreciate the very polite way my decor is described as "aesthetically displeasing" as opposed to what that actually means. "Damn, that's ugly" is probably a more colloquial translation. My feelings might have been hurt otherwise. I'm very relieved I didn't go into the profession of interior decorating (which a few people I know have said I should have done) since the sudden realisation that my taste in style isn't what I once thought it was. It could have been a disaster career wise. Alternatively, what if I were to replace the photos of the bikes with a nice family portrait of my parents? Granted, they aren't super models but they're attractive to me, though I may be biased in that opinion since I care for them, so I'm hoping they're not too ugly. Oops, I mean "aesthetically displeasing". If that fails, maybe a reproduction of the Mona Lisa would be sufficient to meet your high standards. Tourists travel across the globe and wait in line for hours just to see it for a few minutes. Would that be allowed? I won't even charge fellow tenants for looking at it when they're walking past my balcony.
Obviously, I'm being a little ridiculous and I don't mean to give you a hard time. You're just doing your job and enforcing some of the ridiculous rules that management come up with, like the communist level restriction on personal expression and the freedom of choice to decorate and style our own property in a manner that we like. God forbid we show some individuality. Now that I think about, the endless rows of identical looking Soviet era housing structures do have a nice seizure inducing repetitive nature about them. While we're on the subject of decor, how is it that that plastic patio furniture is still allowed? Yes, it is patio furniture which complex rules say are allowed on patios but damn, that is painful to look at. You know what I mean, right? That cheap white plastic stuff one buys at the furniture section at those large bulk buying stores? I find it very aesthetically displeas... oh screw it. It's ugly. I don't like looking at it. It comes across as tacky. Can't they be scrapped as well?
I'm going off topic again. The whole point of me bringing all of this up is that a few months ago I emailed asking about a complaint I had. The complaint was that the lady who lives directly downstairs from me regularly smokes in her garden. And me, being the lover of oxygen that I am, keep my windows and patio door open for fresh air. And her smoke is constantly wafting into my apartment. Me being a non-smoker, I get quite annoyed. I asked if anything could be done about this. I was told "it's her property and her patio, she can smoke on it if she wants to." I know that health legislation stipulates that smoking within a certain distance from a designated non smoking area is illegal. If it's good enough for public spaces, shouldn't I have that same right in my own house? Granted, I don't have "designated non-smoking area" signs in my flat but I'm the only one who lives there so I already know there's no smoking allowed. I made the rule. It would be silly to put them up inside. Should I put them up outside on my patio instead so others can see? Maybe they don't know I don't like cigarette smoke. Actually wait, I already know the answer to that. They're "aesthetically displeasing". Forget I mentioned it.
So to recap: what really gripes me is that when my neighbour smokes so close to my flat that I can practically smell what brand of cigarettes she smokes, I'm told I can't do anything about it even though it might affect my health because it's her property and she can do what she likes on it. By that logic she could host orgies on her lawn and I couldn't do anything about so long as she kept the volume down after 10pm. But I can't put up pictures on my patio because some people might not like the way they look, even though it is also my property and it would be nice if I could do with it as I wanted provided it wasn't an eyesore. Since I take a lot of pride in my flat, I wouldn't call it an eyesore as I maintain it quite well, or at least I think so. If only a person's lungs and health were as important as other people's inability to mind their own business.
So, what I really want to know is, is there any way that my neighbour could possibly just smoke inside her flat or at least outside the front of her flat if she insists on smoking outside where the smoke won't come into my place as easily, I would accept that too. I'm not a completely unreasonable guy. I find her smoke "nasally displeasing". I normally wouldn't make such a big deal about it but I'm starting to feel that what I'm subjected to versus what others have to be subjected to is a bit unfair. Sorry to put all this on you, Stuart. I understand it's totally not your fault. I'll still take the pictures and the pot plants down immediately.
Your assistance is appreciated.
Kind Regards,
Alex (Unit 117)

I sent that reply after 6 p.m. and I did not expect him to respond until the next morning. But half an hour later I got a reply. My email must have made an impact.

Hi Alex
Thank you for your e-mail. I thoroughly enjoyed reading it.
I do understand your frustration and unfortunately this is the reality of staying in such built up complexes. I will address the issue of the smoking with your neighbour and will revert to you.
Thank you for your assistance and understanding.
Kind Regards
Stuart.

To me, that sounded positive. So Stuart deserved a pat on the back. I sent a short reply:

Thanks Stuart! Much appreciated. You're a top notch guy!

By now it was after 8pm and I'm sure someone with a 9 to 5 desk job like Stuart should have been at home and clocked out but he was still replying to me.

Hi Alex.
I have confirmed that smoking is only allowed inside the unit or at least 5m from a public place, such as your balcony. I will confirm the neighbours unit number in the morning, unless you can advise offhand, and will address her on the smoking issue
Kind Regards,
Stuart.

I was over the moon! I ran downstairs to see what her unit number was and ran back upstairs to reply.

Stuart!
You've gone from being a top notch guy to being a legend. Thanks so much! Her unit is 107. I was worried the outcome wouldn't be great and would have to "accidentally" bump into my pots while taking my pictures down while she was "conveniently" smoking in just the right position. It would be a tragic accident of course. \Cough cough* Sorry, some smoke got into my lungs. Though that would be a lot of effort since I've already taken the plants and pictures down and I would have to put them all up again to make the story sound believable to the police because they would no doubt interrogate me on suspected murder with a pot plant. And that's frankly too much effort. Luckily I don't have to resort to that. Thanks again Stuart! Your hard work has kept me out of prison. It's late. You can email her in the morning. Go home and have a beer. You've earned it!*
P.S. - In all seriousness though, I'm totally kidding about the pot plant thing and if the lady downstairs were to "peg it" in the near future it would be completely coincidental and nothing to do with me and I'd appreciate it if you forgot you ever spoke to me. This would be terrible evidence against me in court. I mean, I dislike smokers but I wouldn't kill them. I'm not crazy.
Regards, Alex.

Sadly, that was the last I would hear from Stuart. Our correspondence stopped after that. I felt we had developed a bond and it ended as quickly as it had begun. I only lived in that estate for another 2 years and had no more issues with the downstairs neighbour or her cigarette smoke. I now live in the suburbs in a lovely house with my wife and have no downstairs neighbours to complain about and no Stuarts to tell me what I can and can't do. I will treasure our time together. I hope wherever he is, he has our email thread printed out and pinned on his office board above his desk and thinks of me fondly whenever he looks at it.

Edit: I accidentally gave away Stuart's real first name on one of the paragraphs instead of using his alias so I have corrected it. And clarified that the pot plants were "potted plants" and not marijuana though it could very well have been pot since it's legal in my country.
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2020.10.30 06:19 nic0-l33 When is abuse considered bad enough to warrant removal

I have two younger sisters (age 16 and 11) who live with our parents in north carolina. My 16 year old sister has severe depression and has stated that she wants to die on many occasions. It took 3 years to convice my mom to get her an actual therapist rather thann a christian counselor that shames her for her sexuality. And i found out that she tried to stab her self with a pencil while crying she wish she were dead. My father is verbally abusive to them. He usually just watches tv all day (the shows he watches depict nudity, murder, rape, ect). If my younger sister asks him for food, he yells at her because she is interfering with his shows. My 16 year old sister is vegetarian and they rarely accomodate her diet. She often times eats bread or ramen noodles. My mom is a hoarder and the house is beyond messy. There are few places to sit and it smells of dog/cat pee. My mom even stores her junk in my 11 year old sisters room and then yells at her for having a dirty room. My parents also body shame my siblings for their weight and for developing breats/periods. At times my mother has threatened to neglect my younger siblings by telling them that they are on their own and can find their own food. When my parents find out that my sisters are telling me this stuff they take their phones/school laptops away and turn off the internet. I have threatened to call CPS before, so if i do there will be no question that it was me. I will be disowned and my parents will make it more difficult for my siblings to contact me. I am afraid that CPS will not remove my siblings from the house and that my parents will take their anger out on the kids. Does anyone have advise on what CPS would do? What is the likelihood they would be removed?
Btw I want to adopt my younger sisters
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2020.10.30 04:34 KOKOABUNNY [REQ] $900 REPAY $1,200 BY NOVEMBER 20TH AT THE LATEST

OK SORRY IN ADVANCE FOR THE LONG EXPLANATION BUT THIS IS MY SITUATION IM A SINGLE MOM AND I NEED SOME HELP PAYING OFF SOME PAST DUE BILLS,RENT FOR NOVEMBER AND FOR GAS TO CONTINUE TO GET TO WORK. YOU WONT GET ANY LAME EXCUSES WHEN ITS TIME TO REPAY AND I CAN PROVIDE MY WORK PHONE NUMBER SO YOU WILL NEVER FEEL "Ghosted" I WILL COMMUNICATE WITH YOU. PAYPAL GOODS AND SERVICES IS PREFERRED. I HAVE BEEN EMPLOYED AT MY CURRENT JOB FOR ALMOST 3 YEARS BUT HAD MY HOURS REDUCED SLIGHTLY BECAUSE OF COVID AND ONCE MY HOURS PICKED BACK UP AGAIN I WASNT ABLE TO IMMEDIATELY RESUME BECAUSE OF THE DISTANCE LEARNING WITH MY KIDS. SO I BASICALLY WORKED MINIMUM HOURS FROM HOME UNTIL I LOCATED A DAYCARE THAT COULD ACCOMODATE THEM WITH THEIR ZOOM LESSONS IN THE MORNING AND AFTERNOON . NOW IM BACK IN THE OFFICE WHICH IS A BLESSING BUT NEED HELP CATCHING UP. IM WILLING TO PAY BACK $1,200 IN FULL STARTING FRIDAY NOVEMBER 6TH $400 AND EACH FRIDAY ANOTHER $400 UNTIL NOVEMBER 20TH. I WAS TOLD NOBODY WOULD HELP ME WITH MY PREVIOUS AMOUNT I REQUESTED BECAUSE IM NEW AND TO LOWER THE AMOUNT BUT UNFORTUNATELY I CANT WAIT THIS WILL REALLY HELP. IF I COULD GET A LOAN FROM MY BANK I WOULDVE DEFINITELY DONE SO BUT I WAS DENIED. IF THERE IS A LENDER INTERESTED IN ASSISTING ME WITH A SMALLER AMOUNT IM OPEN TO THAT OR 2 LENDERS THAT CAN DO HALF. THANKS IN ADVANCE
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2020.10.30 01:37 bombusblue Flatmates don't understand and made some really hurtful 'jokes'

Hi, I'm pretty new to Reddit so please excuse my formatting and let me know if I can do anything better. Sorry, this may be quite long, TL;DR at the bottom.
I (F18) never know where to start when talking about my disability; I'm a mixture of conditions that on, their own, wouldn't be much of an issue. I've been to doctors since I started walking and when I was 16, I had both of my femur bones broken and reset to help with a few of these conditions. Sadly, it brought to light that there were other factors to play; I am currently in the process of being tested for EDS (Ehlers Danlos Syndrome) hypermobile type (important for later).
I am still recovering from this and I visibly 'waddle' particularly if I don't take my medication. I have always been very open about my conditions because it's not like I can ask people to google them when nothing comes up. I've come up with the perfect ways to explain it all, I let people ask questions, and overall I just want people to be comfortable and knowledgable around me.
I moved to university in September and I have had to have some help in terms of accomodation and such. For example, I am in an accessible room just incase I was to have a flair up or an accident and need to use my wheelchair. My flatmates (4) are not in accessible rooms nor have spoken about having a disability but often complain and say it's not fair that I get the bigger room. Not the worst thing in the world for them to say so I just shrug it off...
There have been other instances where they can tell that my medication has hit me hard that day and they mock me for taking my prescriptive pills and 'being high' when I do not use recreationally; this is purely to reduce my pain.
The issue becomes greater when it comes to cleaning the kitchen. I asked when I first met them if my job could be wiping down the surfaces because it's the least strenuous on my body, which they agreed. However, nobody else cleans. This often leaves me doing the other jobs too (like vacuuming, mopping and taking the bins out) which is necessary because every two weeks we have a kitchen inspection. However, these tasks also leave me bed bound for at least an hour or two after on a good day.
I went home for a while last weekend, cleaning the kitchen before I left and when I came back, it was like a food bomb had gone off in the kitchen and I had had enough. Today we had an inspection and I refused to clean before hand.
Of course, we failed.
This is where the true rant comes in...As you can tell, me doing everything had started to really get to me...
My two male flatmates (both 18) were talking about it this evening, saying about how they won't do the bins because they "always do them". I made a comment that I had helped them a couple of times but that I disinfected and wiped down the sides, vacuumed and mopped instead and then one of them says "yeah but thats not taking out the bins is it?"
At this point, I responded with "I am disabled" to which one responsed "well, I'm Black" and the other said "I'm Indian". This really upset me and I responded with "I literally had both of my femur bones broken and reset into a new position where I had to learn to walk again. While you both face your own issues, how does that cause you physical pain that means you can't do chores easily?"
I can't remember what the boys response was for the above, Please bare with me as this part becomes a little blurry. Yesterday I spoke to them about how the girl next door to our flat has diagnosed EDS and that I'd never spoken to someone with the condition diagnosed before; lets call her Sara. She only shares 1 condition with me and even then our symptoms vary massively.
One of the boys then says "I bet Sara is smoking outside, lets go ask her if she can take out the bins, then we'll know if you are being truthful." The other boy snickered and I just stood there with my mouth open for what felt like forever and then said that I was speechless about what they just said. They explained that they were "just messing" and I responded with "right?" in a 'so that makes it okay?' sense. They asked what they did wrong then and I was too upset to form a better answer so I just said "just watch your words please." All of what they said was malicious in tone and my comments were quite sharp, which I've never been with them before.
I am embarrased and hate that I snapped because I never snap but with the messy kitchen and them dismissing my disability, I'm not surprised that I did. At this point, I turned around and washed my dishes to calm down.
When I turned back again, I apologised for snapping at them (because I still have to live with them for a year, particularly if a lockdown happens) and they said it was fine... before one of the boys said "don't worry, I get it, I have a girlfriend" which was another infuriating moment.
I explained that I got upset because I feel I do a lot for the kitchen even though it physically pains me and it makes me upset that they dismiss all the effort that I put in. They basically said they get it and that they don't do anything in the kitchen.... I can tell this isn't going to change their behaviour though.
I stayed with them for a bit on our phones to sort of show that I was okay and not just a 'hysterical female sterotype' before saying goodnight, leaving, and had a really good cry in my room about it all.
I am barely every upset about my physical issues so it's surprising how hard this hit me and the friends I have spoken to about this have been pretty horrified by what the boys said, saying how ableist it was. I don't doubt that they did mean some harm by their words but I do believe a lot of it is birthed from ignorance, particularly for invisible disabilities. While I would consider moving out or even swapping rooms with someone, the contracts are really tricky to leave and it would be hard to get another accessible, ground floor room with a phoneline for my fall alert system.
I'm very much stuck on what to do, particularly as I still have over 6+ months living with them (worse if we have another lockdown). I also believe we get penalised somehow if we fail the next kitchen check so I'm not sure what to do about that. I am considering emailing my accomodation at least about the uncleanliness (saying I am limited in what I can do on my own) but I'm not sure whether to include these comments in the email because I don't want to cause an issue in my flat.
Thank you for letting me rant :) I feel less upset having it written down rather than bouncing around my head. I hope you have a nice day.
TL;DR: My flatmates don't do their chores so I do them even though it takes a physical toll on my body. They then make comments insinuating that I don't help them with chores and also dismiss my disability/doubt the way it impacts me. I get upset and snap at them which makes me feel guilty and I apologise. One of them comments that he understands because he has a girlfriend... I leave and get really upset about it, not knowing how to get them to understand and also realising that they'll never pull their weight. Just letting all of this out :)
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2020.10.30 01:20 MabiVsGames_ Did they screw up by only having 4/5 star characters?

With so much content planned I think it would’ve benefited everyone to have more tiers of characters from the start.
Moreso I would’ve preferred some party system that has a strength cap to accomodate all types of tiers for balance.
For example, each character is assigned points based on tier (2,3,4,5) star. Your party size could be anywhere between 2-10 based on your setup. Imagine having low tier units but a lot of them or smaller party sizes with stronger units. The strategy and customization would make a more satisfying experience.
Also with the growing amount of characters planned it’s going to be a chore switching out 4 characters at a time for 4 loadouts.
Just some wishful thinking I talked about during a stream the other day where a viewer told me they stopped playing because of nothing but 3 star weapon pulls. If they had more satisfaction for collecting 2,3 weapon/hero pulls it might’ve held their attention.
What do you guys think of these ideas? Too much? Maybe you can help me modify this better. Love to hear your thoughts!
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2020.10.30 00:39 doritoswcheese Is my plan doable? Es mi plan realizable?

Hello! I'll be going on a WorkAway adventure next month in Santa Teresa.
I won't be paid for it, just gaven a room and accomodation, so I need to eat :D.
My question is: I surf, and would love to teach tourists to do it. Can I buy 3 surfboards and go down the beach on my free time searching for people who want to learn?
The goal of this will be to just have some money to pay for my food.
How do you see this? Talking about November, December, January
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2020.10.29 23:05 blastcage Are there any social media platforms designed for use by people with moderate-to-severe intellectual disabilities?

Asking for a friend, who is himself friends with a disabled man who keeps using social media but finds a lot of things confusing or upsetting. I researched this a little myself but I don't know the exact terms for the sort of thing that would accomodate this kind of thing. Hopefully with some kind of active moderation so that conflicts arising from misunderstandings can be de-escalated.
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2020.10.29 22:59 anditgetsworse DA's and Respecting Boundaries: A discovery from an AP

Yesterday, I had an experience that prompted me to think about how my ex-DA lover (friends before for three years) felt this summer when I disrespected his boundaries.
I got a call from an ex-boyfriend of mine (different from the DA). We've both been struggling a lot with loneliness and depression from the isolation of pandemic. Sometimes I'll go over there and hang out with him, and he often times will get very handsy with me while we're watching a movie. I don't mind some couch snuggling because the physical contact can help us both, but I he always tries to push my boundaries to entice me to have sex, or touch me in sexual ways. When he does this I feel incredibly uncomfortable, stressed, and anxious. Yesterday I explicitly told him I'm not comfortable with it, and he backed off, but wasn't very apologetic about it and instead was trying to rationalize his actions to me and try and make sure my perception of him wasn't that he was some perv. He seemed more concerned with his explaining his behavior to me than to actually recognize he was over-stepping his bounds.
I don't know why but I just could not stop thinking about my DA from over the summer. It is true he handled the situation between us very poorly, and did not have the capacity to talk with me about his feelings and was unwilling to deal with the consequences of how I was affected.
However, I feel now like I was not respectful of how challenging and difficult it was to have emotional conversations. He did tell me that he is scared of emotional connection, and that it is almost like torture for him to have deeply emotional conversations. I knew that, and he made that clear. But when I was falling apart due to the sudden nature of his deactivation, and the way he denied and diminished everything he said about his feelings for me, I was not able to control myself and prompted many emotional conversations where I was desperate for answers. He always stayed on the phone with me for as long as I needed him, but he never gave me the answers I asked for. The emotionally heavy nature of these conversations prompted him to ask for space.
We stopped seeing each other, but I was keeping in touch through phone calls. However I was clearly not ready to jump back into friendship and I broke down again, prompting him to want to put a pause on the phone calls too. I eventually convinced him that this phase was over, and just like my ex-boyfriend did to me, I was obsessed with rationalizing my emotional breakdowns to him instead of recognizing that I was wrong to try and stay friends when I hadn't given myself time to grieve yet.
He was reluctant at first but then believed me that I was ready for a casual friendship again. This went fine for a couple weeks, until again I broke down and sent him text messages expressing my pain and hut and once again asking for answers. This time he stopped responding.
I just feel like I overstepped his boundaries so much. He couldn't talk about his feelings and refused emotional conversations, those were boundaries he was trying to put in place. Despite that I feel he tried to accomodate me as much as possible. The feelings that I felt with my ex-boyfriend yesterday was the first time I was aware of the discomfort and anxiety that can be caused when your boundaries are being pushed. And I felt that perhaps this is something that he also felt and I feel really guilty that I was the cause of that.
So the TLDR on this is that sometimes I think AP's like me because so focused on the hurt and pain we experience from relationships with DA's, but don't think about how our emotional reactions can negatively affect people who are incredibly uncomfortable with emotional conversations and behaviors.
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2020.10.29 18:17 Peejay0725 CVS Pharmacy

I started my Orientation yesterday, it went well, the staff and managers were accomodating and helpful but their system is a little bit slow.
So, what’s next?
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